What about your friends!

Friendship is something that is valuable and we shouldn't take lightly.  In this life that is so precious we often meet ordinary people, who become valuable people in our life, and we never actually realized how near and dear they would be to our hearts.  While talking to one of my longtime friends she was upset that one of her friends boyfriend accused her of something, and i believe she was more upset that she was already guilty before even being questioned. 

True friendship in my opinion would be when someone speaks negatively against you whether its your boyfriend, or someone in the streets.  If we are as close as we are supposed to be you should be able to know me better than what rumors are.  A girlfriend of mine always told me "that if you want to keep your friends listen and don't speak" which i found to be true, sometime people want/don't want your opinions they actually just want someone they know to hear them out.  They usually know the situation they are in is screwed up and they don't need you to second that notion, they just want to know that as their friend that you listen and understand.

Now the best thing to do is Love your friends no matter their faults, Offer advice if you deem it necessary, Value who they truly are and Expect the best for everyone.  If we would just learn that no one is perfect, and that we all have flaws, that is when you sort out who your true friends are.

Am i not good enough to be your friend!!!

Well someone asked me or rather gave me their scenario and asked my opinion.  The names are fictional so that it will better help you understand.  So you guys tell me what you think.  This young lady (Tracy) has been friends with a (Monique) for about a year or two, she was there for her when she went through all her trials and tribulations.  Well the issue has been that Tracy is recently seperated from her husband of 9 years and she has made up her mind that she is getting a divorce.  Tracy is dating now, and just enjoying life, her friend Monique is divorced and still struggling with the divorce she has a guy friend she is dating, but it's nothing promising.  Mind you monique is a church goer and so on and so forth, so she feels that tracy is a little too wild for her now, but she really isn't doing anything that she isn't...So lately tracy has been feeling like maybe she isn't good enough to be monique's friend because every time she invites her out to (lunch, movies, or bowling) she always finds an excuse not to go with her.  So her thoughts to me were she feels like because she isn't into going to church all the time, does that classify her as a bad person, she believes that God looks at the heart, so why does she feel like she is good enough to be her friend when she needs someone to vent to about her ex, but when she wants to hang out, she finds all types of excuses.  Well my opinion was some people make use of God when it's feasible for them, and forget that we all fall short sometime, but no one is perfect!!!!  And maybe she is a little jealous that she is really living her life now, and she isn't because of obligations to everyone else.  So what do you think!!!